Planning a wedding? Where does one begin? In order to enjoy every moment of your wedding day, you should carefully plan all of your arrangements. If you desire a large formal wedding, ideally you should begin nine to fifteen months in advance; fortunately, many beautiful weddings can be assembled in considerably less time. The most important ingredient is to follow a plan with a time table. For your convenience, the essential checklist and worksheets are located in this packet.

9 to 15 Months
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• Decide what type of wedding you want in terms of size, setting & formality.

• Determine budget; discuss tentative budget and sharing expenses.
  Choose the ceremony location.


• Discuss possible wedding dates and premarital requirements with your wedding officiant.


• Choose a reception location.


• Select and reserve caterer/wedding consultant.


• Decide on your color theme.


• Decide on the size of your wedding party and begin to invite them.


• Begin interviewing and select your photographer.


• Begin interviewing and select your videographer.


• Select he style of your gown and veil.


• Select a bridal shop.


• Select your attendants’ apparel.


• Begin interviewing and select your florist.


• Select music for the reception/ceremony (i.e. live musicians/band/DJ).


• Complete name and addresses of guests.


• Have your engagement photos taken.


• Select a travel agent and begin planning your honeymoon.

6 to 9 months
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• Place your engagement announcement in the newspaper.


• Register gift preferences with one or more bridal registries.


• Begin shopping for the men’s wedding attire.


• Keep record of all gifts received and send thank you notes promptly.

4 to 6 months
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• Check on blood test and marriage license requirements.
  
• Decide on new living arrangements. (Buy or rent.)
  
• Order invitations, personal stationery, programs, napkins, etc.
  
• Reserve hotel rooms for out of town guests.
  
• Select a jeweler and purchase your wedding rings.
  
• Select a bakery and order your wedding cake.
  
• Order favors.
  
• Be sure everything is completed prior to this step.
  
• Have a printing professional prepare maps to include with invitations.
  
• Begin shopping for your trousseau.

• Select reception decorations: balloons, flowers, candles…
  
• Select ceremony accessories: unity candle, guest book, ring, and pillow…
  
• Buy license, get blood test if necessary.
  
• Choose personal accessories: garter, handbag, engraved goblets…
  
• Arrange bridesmaids’ luncheon, dinner or brunch.
  
• Purchase gift for your fiancé.
  
• Select going away outfit.
  
• Make a calendar of events for your wedding day.
  
• Final bridal and attendant fittings.

2 weeks
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• Have final consultations: musician, DJ, photographer, florist, videographer, wedding coordinator, baker, caterer…
  
• Finish addressing announcements o be mailed on your wedding day.
  
• Pick up wedding rings and make sure of proper fit.
  
• Schedule appointments for hair and nails.
  
• Invite wedding party and guests to rehearsal dinner.
  
• Contact guests who have not responded.
  
• Confirm out of town guests lodging.
  
• Final consultation with officiant.

1 week
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• Give final guest count to caterer.
  
• Remind the men to pick up formal attire.
  
• Confirm all honeymoon reservations and schedules.
  
• Be sure o have your marriage license.
  
• Work in some relaxation: message, day spa, or simply some quiet time.

Your planning is complete, have a wonderful day!!

Change of Times
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Times have changed when it comes to who pays for what. Traditionally the brides’ family paid for all the nuptial expenses. The following lists are guidelines that are based on a young couple both getting married for he first time. The bride, groom, and their families should get together to discuss the wedding plan and budget. The best way to approach this area is to be communicative, realistic, and courteous. These are times when tradition bows o practicality; he who pays is the one who is most willing and able. It is a great idea to note who has offered to pay for what to eliminate any misunderstandings and hard feelings later.

Bride and Her Family Bride’s wedding attire Trousseau of clothes & lingerie Gifts for her attendants Personal Stationery Announcements/Invitations, postage Engagement & Wedding Photos Physical Exam/Blood Test Groom’s wedding ring Groom’s gift Attendant bouquets Wedding consultant’s fee Bridesmaid luncheon Cost of ceremony: rental fees, Flowers, decorations, programs, music Guest book Cost of reception: hall rental, caterer, Food, decorations, flowers, wedding cake, Music, favors, tent, non-alcoholic beverages Videographer Transportation for wedding party Accommodations for out of town Attendants/guests (optional) Groom and His Family Groom’s wedding attire Gifts for groom’s attendants Bride’s Ring Physical Exam/Blood test Marriage license Bride’s gift Rehearsal Dinner Fee for officiant Bride’s bouquet Corsages for mothers and Grandmothers Boutonnieres for groom’s attendants Honeymoon Liquor at reception Accommodations for out of town Attendants guests * Shipment to transfer gifts to the newlyweds new home.

Attendant’s Responsibilities

The Maid/Matron of Honor
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• Assist the bride with pre-wedding tasks.
  
• Pay for her own wedding attire and accessories (except for flowers).
  
• Attend all pre-wedding parties and host a bridal shower with other bridesmaids.
  
• Record gifts during shower.
  
• Arrange a date to have bridesmaids’ dresses fitted.
  
• Assist the bride by doing errands and tying up loose ends on the day of the wedding.
  
• Arrange the bride’s veil and train during ceremony.
  
• Hold the groom’s ring during ceremony.
  
• Hold the bride’s bouquet during the ring exchange.
  
• Sign the marriage certificate as a witness.
  
• Stand next to groom in the receiving line and sit to his left at the head table.
  
• Dance with best man when the bridal party is called to dance.
  
• Assist the bride as she changes into her going away outfit.
  
• May assume responsibility for transporting the bride’s gown to her home or cleaners.
  
• May assist the best man with transporting gifts to the couple’s home.

• Arranges a party in the groom’s honor.
  
• Make sure the groom is packed, has all tickets, passports, and information for the honeymoon.
  
• Assist he groom the day of the wedding.
  
• See that the groom is properly attired and at the church or ceremony location on time.
  
• Bring the marriage license and bride’s ring to the ceremony.
  
• Supervise the duties of the groomsmen/ushers.
  
• Hold he bride’s ring during the ceremony.
  
• Gives the minister/officiate a sealed envelope containing payment (from the groom) immediately following the ceremony.
  
• Signs the marriage certificate as a witness.
  
• Drive the couple to the reception if a transportation service is not hired.
  
• Propose the first toast to the newlyweds.
  
• Dance with maid/matron of honor when bridal party is called to dance.
  
• Assist the groom in changing into his going away attire. (Tuxes can be tricky!).
  
• May assist he maid of honor with transporting gifts to the couple’s home.
  
• Escort the couple to their limousine or drive them to the hotel or airport.

The Bridesmaids
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• Assist the maid/matron of honor with shower arrangements.
  
• Give support and encouragement throughout the wedding planning.
  
• Pay for own wedding attire and accessories (except flowers).
  
• Assist the bride in making receptions favors.
  
• Attend all fittings for your dress.
  
• Assist decorating for the reception unless a professional is hired.
  
• Dance with groomsmen when the bridal party is called o dance.
  
• May light candles, attend guest book, gifts etc.
  
• Make the bride feel like she is “Queen for he Day.”

The Groomsmen/Ushers
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• Assist the bestman to coordinate pre-wedding festivities.
  
• Greet and seat all of he guests.
  
• Unroll he aisle runner.
  
• May also be called to distribute maps, drive automobiles, and run errands.
  
• Dance with bridesmaids when he bridal party is called o dance.

Love is truly the greatest gift one can give to another. The engagement ring is the symbol and expression of your love that speaks volumes. It is a reassure to wear, continually celebrating the decision of two people to spend their lives together.

For thousands of years, diamonds have been the gift of choice for men who wanted to melt a heart. Since ancient times, diamonds have been prized, and even fought over. Diamonds have been said to possess mystical and healing powers, but most of all they are seen as the most beautiful and magical gift of love.

Now that you know you want a diamond, how will you choose he perfect piece for the one you love?

The knowledge of a professional jeweler who will take the time to explain the characteristics and benefits of your many options will insure true value in your final selection.

Choosing an engagement ring should be a pleasure, and it will be when you work with a jeweler you’re comfortable with. Never hesitate to ask questions. After all, you’ve come to a professional to learn about diamonds and precious metals so you can make an informed decision and spend wisely. He traditional two months salary guideline is a good place to start when considering your budget, though you’ll need to decide what is right for you. No mater what your choice of size and style, value is key. No two diamonds are alike, and two diamonds of the same size can vary widely in quality and price. A good jeweler will take the time o lead you through the 4 C’s (Cut, Clarity, Color, Carat)- your guide o every diamond’s quality and value.

Have you gathered clues to help you in your quest for just the right ring? She will probably love any diamond ring you choose, but it will touch her heart to know you’ve made the effort to choose something special just for her. Next time she’s browsing through her favorite magazines, browse with her and watch; the signals will be hard o miss when she sees a ring that makes her heart leap. Visit jewelry stores together. Take note of the styles that appeal to her. Her reactions will tell you what she really wants. Whether your tastes are for platinum or gold, round brilliant of fancy cut diamonds, there are gorgeous choices in every category. If you’re still not comfortable choosing a setting style, just keep it simple with a diamond solitaire. You can surprise your fiancé with the beautiful diamond you’ve chosen, and then work together to find the best setting style to compliment your new gem.
Remember o make it a special time when you present this precious gift of love. She’ll probably remember the moment for he rest of her life!

Are you ready to choose a wedding band now? Your wedding rings are the symbols you wear daily the tell the world you have found the one you love and that the two of you are committed o each other. No other piece of fine jewelry says so much, and that makes your wedding ring choice very personal.

Do you desire matching bands for the two of you, or something very different for each? Either way is perfectly food. Your professional jeweler will give you style choices along with he information you need o choose what is right for you. These are rings you will wear for many, many years, so you will want them to be comfortable as well as lasting.

Will it be 14k gold, platinum or mixed metals, bright polish or the more modern mate finish, gemstones or not? Ask about the durability and maintenance of your favorite styles. Some designs will last very well through regular everyday wear, and some are designed as more of a dress piece of jewelry that you would wear on occasion, rather than daily. If you choose o have gemstones, will they be the classic and enduring diamonds, or will you consider colored gemstones? Today couples may wear custom made wedding rings that are unique to them, possibly containing gems in their favorite colors or each other’s birthstones. Will your marriage bring together children from previous relationships? Your wedding rings can also symbolize he melding of your family by including a gemstone for each child.

Whatever styles appeal o you, choose a professional jeweler you are comfortable with, one who can provide selection and service, helping you to choose rings that fit your budget and fulfill your dreams!

Happy shopping!

Should I Use an Event Coordinator?
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A professional wedding consultant is an experienced, organized, detail-oriented, imaginative, people person, possessing mature judgment, patience and he know-how to orchestrate your special day.

The consultant has he capability of planning, organizing, activating and coordinating your dream wedding in a personal and cost effective way.

Years ago, wedding consultants/coordinators were hired only by the very wealthy. Today more and more brides and their parents are taking he time o investigate the services offered by these professionals. They are finding that consultants’ fees are reasonable and well worth the professionalism and know how they possess.

Today, many prospective brides and grooms are paying for their own weddings. They often know what they want and what they are willing o spend. Since wedding consultants save time, comparison shop for clients and know when adjustments can be made in cost without sacrificing quality. It is best to hire a wedding consultant before you begin shopping. A consultant works very closely with a network of reputable wedding professionals from the planning stage through the complete orchestration of your wedding day.

Everyone wants a role in the planning and production of your wedding. Even though mothers, relatives, and friends mean well, they should be free to enjoy your very special day and leave the worry and details to a professional. Close relatives or friends may be included in the ceremony, in such a role as candle lighting or special readings. The role of the mother of the bride is to act as a hostess, which can be quite demanding. She can enjoy the celebration while the professional wedding consultant oversees all aspects of the wedding day.

Some couples opt to do all of he planning themselves and really enjoy the process. If time and energy permit, this is certainly a rewarding and bonding experience! In some instances, when it gets right down to the wire and they find themselves completely stressed-out and concerned about the flow of their special day, they should consider hiring a wedding consultant to coordinate the rehearsal and wedding day. Whether you require a full service wedding consultant or simply a coordinator for your special day, the consultant/coordinator should be hired as soon as he wedding date is set. Fees vary from a complimentary, introductory consultation to hourly charges, fixed rate and/ or commission.

Planning your wedding can be overwhelming. A professional wedding consultant will save you time and money, while alleviating the stress associated with planning such a special event.

Traditionally the bridal registry is used to set up your first home together. It is a service offered by department and specialty stores, which allows you and your fiancée to list a variety of gifts you would like to receive. Most registries are computerized, circulating your selections to all their branches and continuously updating as gifts are purchased. You should register 6-9 months prior to the wedding.

When registering, shop with your fiancée together so you can make decisions together. Remember, as you choose your gifts, these items will be yours for a lifetime (or until they break). Make sure to accommodate all your guests by selecting items that cover a wide price range.

Once you have registered, the accepted way to inform your guests is for he bridesmaids, mothers, and other close relatives to ensure “the word gets out”. It is perfectly acceptable to include “Registered at…” on the shower invitations but not on wedding invitations. Guests will use he registry when selecting gifs for engagement parties, showers, and of course, the wedding itself.

Even with the registries, you will probably receive duplicate gifts. These can easily be exchanged or returned. Here is no need o notify he giver of this when sending the thank you note. Be sure to thank hem for the original gift that you received.

A handwritten thank you should be sent within one month of receiving a gift. It is not only proper etiquette but it will keep you from getting overwhelmed. It is a good idea to keep a list of gifts as they are received and check them off as thank you notes are sent.

• Prior to registering, look through magazines and browse through stores to help define what you both will like.
  
• Inventory what you both own and would like to replace.
  
• Determining how much to register for should be judged by the size of your wedding. If your wedding will be small and intimate, concentrate on registering for he basic, most wanted items.
  
• If you choose to register at more than one store, don’t register for the same items at each one.
  
• Remember to call or stop in to update the list following showers, holidays, and even the wedding itself.

You are planning your wedding day. One of the most important decisions you will need to make is the choice of your photographer. After all, when the wedding is over, the two most precious things you have left, besides each other, are your wedding rings and your photographs.

There are several factors which must be included in your decision making process before selecting a photographer. These will include, but are no limited to, the following: your budget for photography, the photographer’s personality, the style of photos you want (i.e. candid, formal, photojournalistic, color, black and white, etc.), a formal interview with the photographer, samples of their work, references, and an overall view of how he photographer goes about shooting a typical wedding.

Before you even make an appointment to see a photographer, try to do the following: ask around to see if this person has a reputation and personality you would wan to work with. If any of your friends have recently been married, ask them whom they used and if they were satisfied. Another source of reference for you are other wedding professionals such as coordinators, florists, DJ’s and venue site directors.

If time permits, go to wedding faires. You will be able to see a host of photographers and their styles all under one roof in one day. These can all narrow down your choice to two or three.

At that point, call the photographers of your choice and find out if they are available on your date. Many of the “choice photographers” are booked well in advance. Six months to a year is not out of the question if you want to select and not settle with a photographer. During the interview, look at their work in depth and ask questions, both in regard to their style as well as the business end of photography. Some photographers will offer packages that have fixed prices with set results on the number of pictures, album, and time spent at your wedding. Others will allow you to set a price for taking the pictures on your wedding day and then let you pick and choose what you wish o purchase after seeing the preview album.

• Does the photographer follow the same “formula” for taking pictures at every wedding, or will they allow you to decide whether you want more formals or candids or a mix of both?
  
• Will they be at your rehearsal the day before to handle any last minute details?
  
• Are black and white pictures included?
  
• Do they have an assistant and back up equipment?
  
• Is the person you are interviewing the actual photographer who will be taking the pictures?
  
• Can they supply you with references?
  
• How long have they been in he wedding photography business? (Experience at this point really counts.)
  
• Are hey familiar with your ceremony and reception sites?
  
• Will they do medium format or 35mm pictures? (Some do only one or the other.)
  
• What are their policies regarding deposits, refunds, and pricing structure for packages and purchases?
  
• Ask to see a sample contract for wedding photography.

Wedding receptions are a celebration of good fortune as well as a gift to your family and friends for their love and support. You will want this celebration o be molded o fit both you and your guess. Ask yourself some of these questions before you begin your search.

What type of reception do we want? Theme oriented, formal, casual?
How many guests do we plan on having attend?
What type of food and beverages would we like o serve?
Do we want a lot of dancing or prefer more of a socializing event?

With these questions in mind you are ready o search for the site that will enhance your reception.

In this century you have the advantage of many tools to search with. The Internet is an easy way to find locations and what each has to offer without leaving your home. Wedding Faires are a valuable tool. In one afternoon you can see what different sites have to offer.

As you begin your search for a location, the number of guests attending will determine a lot in regard to your reception site. This will exclude some location as too large or too small, thus saving you the time of looking at sites that do not fit your needs.

Your next step is to check with the reception sites you have selected and see if hey are available on you preferred date. By beginning the selection process early, you maximize your chance of securing the date you prefer. If you are unable o start planning several months ahead, don’t be discouraged, but be prepared to settle for an alternate date. If the site you have chosen is already booked you may be able to shift dates and sill have your reception at the site of your choice.

An Important strategy involves the style of your reception. If formal is what you want, ensure that the reception site has the proper tableware, staff, linens and décor to carry off the desired level of formality.

If family and friends are more relaxed, then you want to keep the event casual. An informal event is a little easier to arrange. A wide variety of facilities from community parks to local restaurants to resorts may be available to provide just the right seating and atmosphere.

If your guests love to dance then your ideal reception involves hours of dancing and merry making. Be sure to inquire with the site coordinator as to time and noise restrictions at the site, so that your event can fit nicely within their guidelines.

If you are having guests from all over he country who have not seen each other in years then many couples will want o have a relaxing reception where hey can mingle and chat with their guests. Choose the reception site that will enhance he ability of your guests to move about and socialize.

Food and beverage will be the main ingredient in the success of your reception. When choosing your menu, some criteria to consider include wedding theme, guests preferences, and, of course, your budget.

A formal sit down dinner will suit the style of our reception best.
Guests being able o socialize while going through a buffet is what we would like to see.

A light appetizer being served is what fits our budget.

We would like o provide our guests with wine or beer throughout he event.
We prefer that our guests purchase heir own alcoholic beverages.
Our event will be alcohol free.

All styles of meals or appetizers may fit into a successful reception. While booking your reception site, be sure to ask about their policies on allowing outside caterers.

The wedding reception is a reflection of who you are, so choose what fits best in regard to the serving of beverages. You may request to bring in your own beverages. However, be sire to clarify this before booking, as many facilities have restrictions due to policy and liabilities.

There are many types of successful receptions, from the light cake and punch o the formal evening ball. With planning assistance and wedding coordination, both your families and friends will be able to enjoy this special day while leaving the derails to your wedding professionals.

Selecting a Caterer
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As long as you follow a few guidelines, you can be assured of selecting a caterer who will help make your event all that you wish it to be. If your reception plans call for an outdoor wedding (garden, home, etc.), a private hall or other facility, which allow for you to furnish your own caterer, the options are many. Services and prices can vary widely, so having an idea of what you want and how much you are willing to spend before talking to any of them will help you during the interviewing process. There are many resources for finding the names of caterers: this publication, your local phone book yellow pages, and of course word of mouth.

Begin calling early. Most good caterers are booked months in advance. While talking to the caterer, ask many questions. The following list contains some you may want to use:

• What type of food do you specialize in?
  
• What do you suggest for my guests, based on my budget?
  
• Which type of service do you recommend, sit-down or buffet style?
  
• What other types of services can you provide for us?
  
• Do you handle the rental of equipment, dishes, glassware, linen, tables, chairs, tents, wait-staff?
  
• Will it cost less if I handle it myself?
  
• Can you provide the bar service and a bartender?
  
• What is the price per drink?
  
• If we provide our own beverages, will you provide a bartender?
  
• Is set up and clean up included in your price?
  
• Are gratuities included in your price? If so, what percentage is being charged?
  
• Will you provide a contract?
  
• When do you need a final count of number of guests?
  
• Do you require a guaranteed number?
  
• What is the payment policy?
  
• Can you arrange for table centerpieces, decorations or other flowers?
  
• Do you provide the wedding cake? Do you charge a cake cutting fee?
  
• Will you be personally handling and/ or attending our event?
  
• Will you supply me with at least two references?

You should have complete confidence in the caterer you choose. You should taste their food before hiring them, and you should check references. The services they provide can be as important as the quality of the food. Make sure they understand your vision for the reception/party. Insist everything discussed be in the contract. You and the caterer must know what is expected of them. Neither of you want surprises!

Selecting a Videographer
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You are about to make the most important vow of your life. You’ll look into the eyes of the person you love and make a vow that changes the course of your life. This sacred moment is charges with drama and romance. And it’s over before you know it.

If ever a single moment of your life is worth preserving, this is the one. And it deserves to be preserved in its entirety: all the sights and all the sounds. Photography can’t do it alone. You need the almost magical artistry of a professional wedding videographer to do this moment justice.

That is what a professional videographer can do for you: elevate your wedding video into an artistic and exciting history of you major life event. This video is sure to become a family heirloom, something to share with children and friends down through the ages.

Things to look for in a videographer
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Does he or she sound knowledgeable in the field of videography, and is he quick to answer your questions?
Ask for references from other brides and wedding professionals.

Make sure that all your wedding professionals work well together!

Also look for his or her personality. This is important as well. This person will be with you through out your wedding day.

And always make sure to take a look at their work. Under no circumstances should you hire a videographer sight unseen. Please take note of this warning.
How many years have they been in business? Experience is probably one of the most important tools a videographer has. They have already learned from their mistakes.

Benefits when you hire a Professional Videographer
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Professional equipment assures you of a quality so high that it’s almost like watching a movie.
In studio editing gives you more special effects options. Your finished video becomes dynamic and polished. People will love o watch it.
With wireless microphones your voices are clear, you will hear your vows just as you spoke them, with all the emotion, feeling and love.
A low-key presents assures you and your guest from being distracted from the wedding. Brides have told us how much hey appreciate this.
A caring attitude is very important for the bride and groom. A true professional loves what he is doing and cares about your feelings on your wedding day. The results show! The videos have feelings. We listen to you.

Some videographers have other options that may suit your needs; video walls, to show a childhood photo montage and your engagement video at your reception. This is a fun and entertaining option. Your guests will love it.

Let a professional show you how o transform an ordinary video into a spectacular video.
A professional wedding videographer will preserve all he memories of your big day; sights, sounds, and feelings. You will remember he way you and your husband looked and sounded on your wedding day…forever.
He difference between professional and amateur videography is dynamic. It pays to hire a professional wedding videographer. Call and arrange a time to view the work of a wedding videographer and select the one that suits your needs.

Disc Jockey Service
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Hiring a professional mobile disc jockey service may be one of the most important decisions that you will make when planning a wedding. Unless you’re hiring a professional wedding coordinator, it is your D.J. who will probably be doing most of he organization and coordinating at your ceremony and reception. The ministers, officiants, photographers, and caterers often go to the D.J. for he order of events. There are many individuals who dabble in the D.J. industry as a hobby, without a serious commitment o professionalism. Heir events are nor always successful, and unfortunately the customer is the one who suffers.

Here are a few questions to ask when
looking for your disc jockey entertainment
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• How long has he company been in business?
  
• What kind of training program, if any, do he D.J.’s go through?
  
• Are hey using professional D.J. equipment that looks presentable, and not just heir home stereo or a large and bulky system that may be an eyesore?
  
• Are they available on your date? What are their rates? How much of a deposit is required to hold the day for you, and when is he balance due?
  
• Do hey belong to any professional organizations?
  
• Do they offer free pre-planning assistance? (Putting together a flexible time schedule and order of events?)
  
• What kind of music do hey have, and will they be bringing a wide variety of music?
  
• Are the open to taking requests from your guests?
  
• How much experience do they have doing weddings and receptions?
  
• Ask for references from previous customers and other wedding professionals.

Let your D.J. service put their experience and knowledge to work for you on your special day so you can relax and enjoy yourself. Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime event, and a good D.J. can make or break it. The service that you hire should not be a burden, but on the contrary, should put your mind at ease. Choose a company hat you feel confident in. there are a lot of mobile disc jockey services out there, but only a few are professional with a commitment to excellence. Fortunately, with a little research, it is easy to see he differences.

Live Musicians
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Live entertainment can take on many forms when it comes to your special event. From featured soloists and orchestras to congregational singers, the entertainment you choose is in part a reflection of you.

An ensemble or orchestra in the afternoon is a wonderful source of entertainment for your guests, while during dinner events a soloist or instrumentalist might be more appropriate. Often a live band or a disc jockey is used for after dinner entertainment to liven up the party with some dance music.

Whatever your taste, there are some things to take into consideration when making your selection:

• Is the price figured on an hourly rate or a flat fee?
  Do they take requests or is their music pre-set?
  
• How long do they break between sets (minimize downtime)?
  Don’t be afraid o ask for references.
  
• Attend a performance.
  
• Amount of space required

It is a good idea to reserve your date as soon as possible. Remember to contact your musician a couple of weeks prior to your event to let them know any details that might be important for them: i.e. space available for set-up, electrical availability, times, etc.

Selecting your invitations
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Choosing an invitation often sets he theme for your wedding. You will need o make many of the following decisions.
First: What type of invitation do you want, formal or something less formal? You need to know how many people you will be inviting. This is critical for the quantity of invitations you will be ordering. The next step in ordering is often the hardest. What do you want your invitations o say? You will need o know where you are getting married, the date, the time, and the place of your reception. You may also choose to put wording or a picture that has special meaning for he two of you.
Next, you need o choose he color and type font for your invitation. You can coordinate invitation colors with wedding colors, but it is not a rule. Then you can decide if you need a monogram, design, or poem on your invitation.
Once you have his completed you need o think about your response card. You need to decide the color, font, and wording. When deciding the RSVP date, consider he time needed to plan the food for your wedding and when you caterer needs this information. Leave yourself enough time o get some late responses in he mail.
Next, do you need a reception card? You can include a footnote on your invitation if your reception is at the same location. If it is not, you may choose to send a reception card along with your invitation. This is also a good place to put a map for those attending from out of the area.
Some final things you may choose are lined envelopes, seals, and return address printed on your envelopes. These are again your personal finishing touch. Many invitation books also include other options such as party favors, toasting glasses, thank you notes, and napkins.

Choosing your Florist
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Let’s get real, ladies and gentlemen, your wedding day is one of he (if not THE) most important days of your lives and needs o be handled in an organized, complete, and FUN way! I emphasize fun because too many brides and grooms (and parents) get so stressed about things they forge to have a good time while planning heir event. The reason for his is that they have he process so planned that there is no room in their heads for any deviation from the original plan, or their plan is somewhat sketchy and therefore doesn’t have a good form o follow. That’s where I come in, to give you a few simple pointers to send you in the right direction in he beginning stages of planning.
With the turn of the century and the millennium, you need o reserve all segments ASAP, including church, reception and/or ceremony area, photographer and caterer (they go fast!) DJ, harpist, and/or band, and last but not at all least, your florist. The photographer and the caterer are pretty much yours for he whole day, so if one of your favorites is already booked, then you have o go on to another. A church can usually perform numerous ceremonies in one day, as well as he DJ, which will depend on how many CD “spinners” work for the company. If you choose to have a band, you’ll need to ensure you have adequate space available.

Now to the beautiful part of the wedding, flowers! It all depends on the florists’ staffing and how elaborate each wedding is. Some prefer to do less so that hey give as much attention as possible to the bride and groom, but again, it depends on the extent of each party.

Once you get all your people, places, and times reserved, he color and ambiance of the day need to be decided upon. Do you want all shades of white? Sage? Periwinkle? The color choice will undoubtedly be decided by the attendant’s dress colors, as well as how you would like the wedding to appear: soft and romantic? Bright and vibrant? Renaissance? Once his is decided, you can feel very secure in the fact that you are on your way to having a wonderful day!

When a bride arrives at the florists shop, they will be very happy with any ideas of what you would like in floral décor. It helps to have tear sheets from magazines, as long as what they do does not have o be an exact copy of a picture. They would like some leeway to change some things if a certain grower has a flower in the right color that the florist thinks would be great, but wasn’t exactly the same as he picture. As long as they create the proper “look,” it gives the florist some creative license, which they love. This is no o say that they want to necessarily change things; hey jus wan to have some freedom o give he brides the best that they can get for their dollar.
Speaking of dollars, having a budget, whether large or small, is of utmost importance. It is nice for the vendors to know what you are thinking of spending for each segment of the wedding, as long as he budget is realistic. Just keep in mind that you cannot get an orchid for a carnation budget! Your florist is readily available to help you with decisions as far as what you need for where. Use their knowledge to assist you, and don’t be afraid o ask questions. Make a consultation appointment so ha the person can se aside he proper time to assist you with your needs. Always pick someone reputable o feel secure that everything will be delivered on time and in great quality shape. You may feel you need o save money by having a friend do your flowers. Just remember that the most embarrassing moment can be when you are walking down the aisle, and the flowers are falling out of the bouquet. Make sure they know the mechanics to design flowers so that this won’t happen.

Ingredients of a good Bakery
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As you work o plan he perfect day for your family and guests, you wouldn’t wan to forge he centerpiece: the cake. You may have a six-tier masterpiece in mind or something a bit less formal that will add the crowning touch to any theme you may have selected.

Ordering your cake should take place 4-6 months prior to your wedding. Once you have decided on a bakery and he type of cake you would like, communication between you and he bakery is the surest way to alleviate any unneeded stress.

There are a few main guidelines you may wish o follow when ordering your cake. Keeping the dinner menu in mind when deciding cake flavors can be extremely helpful. You may not wish to order a double, nutty, chocolate and cream concoction when serving a full prime rib dinner. Instead, you might opt to go with a lighter white cake with a wonderful fruit filling. Icings are also an important matter to decide. While whipped cream icing is fun and light, it requires refrigeration up o the last minute. Fondant is a thin shiny, fudge-type frosting that is poured over he cake. Though delicious o taste, it tends to “sweat” in hot weather, and could even slide off your cake if presented under a hot light during a long reception. In addition, it could be difficult to cut and serve due to its fudge-like quality. Butter cream is probably the safest choice as it is able to stay in the open for hours without refrigeration, and it slices easily. The number of tiers you might have envisioned should no be a cause for concern, as a qualified baker can create any combination by simply making the proportions relative.

Be sure to sample the cake, icing and fillings prior to ordering, as taste is just as important as presentation.

Price is usually based on the number of guests you anticipate will be attending your event. Most bakeries will charge a “per person” fee and create a cake in the size hey know o be appropriate. Always remember that you will be responsible for any wedding cake top of fresh flowers that you wish the cake to be decorated with. If you have a picture of the cake you like, it is a good idea o give one to the bakery and one to the florist so that they are on the same page as to what the final product will be.

Some bakeries do not deliver, so transporting the cake is a duty you should delegate to someone who is not only a good driver, but has the vehicle and time to get it there safely. It is a good idea to make sure that your reception site is expecting the cake at a designated time and is aware of the size so proper storage can be provided. Many reception sites also require a cake-cutting fee from $1.00 to $4.00 per guest. This covers he cost of china and silverware they provide, as well as the cake service.

A southern tradition that is growing rapidly is a groom’s cake. This cake can be enjoyed either at the rehearsal dinner or sliced at the reception and given as momentos to the guests. These cakes are often a reflection of the groom’s personal interests (in the shape of a football, computer, car, etc.). There is a superstition that holds if single women sleep with a slice under their pillow that night, they will dream of their future husband.

Transportation
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On your special day, you shouldn’t have to worry about transportation problems. You deserve the best service available for your wedding. Here are many things to consider when planning your transportation options. What is available in your area? Some couples opt for a horse drawn-carriage. Others choose a classic car or a limousine, but other types of vehicles may be needed for you specific wedding plans.

Ask yourself a few “How” questions before you contact a transportation professional. How many people will ride? How far do you need to go? How long do you need a vehicle standing by? What is your budget? A horse-drawn carriage is a wonderful way for a bridal couple to be transported or the reception site. I highly recommend this if your distance is not too great and fits within your budget. Some people enjoy the distinction of riding in a classic car to their reception site. Licensed companies that have these are very hard to find. You may have to find a friend with this type of vehicle and see if they are willing and reliable enough to make your special day.

Beautiful stretch limousines have become popular for couples-to-be on their wedding day. A well-dressed professional chauffer can help make this day even more memorable. Something to consider is that distance and weather are not problems for these vehicles that also come equipped with refreshments and champagne.

It is recommended o have the limousine take you to the church, standby, take you to pictures and then o your reception. Three hours is the standard minimum for rental. If you want less time you don’t usually save any money. Be sure to coordinate with your photographer the time needed so you can schedule the proper length of time for your limousine.

Some helpful hints when considering a limousine service.
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• Interview a few companies by phone.


• Ask other wedding professionals for a recommendation. The reputation of a limousine service is a good indicator as to the service you will receive.
  
• Physically look a the company’s limousine; while it might be difficult to request a specific limousine, you can see he quality of the cars.
  
• Ask the limousine service to make you a package deal ha would include your bachelor and/or bachorlette party as well as winery tours for out of town guests.
  
• Rent he limousine for more time than you think you will need. This is important due to the busy schedules hat limousine services keep on prime wedding and special days.
  
• Do no cram too many people into a limousine. A 6-passenger stretch will usually accommodate 4 comfortably, and a 10 passenger should never take more than 8 people.

Officiant
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Your wedding day is quickly approaching. Have you thought about who you would like o perform he ceremony? Many couples wait until he last minute to choose their officiant, because many other aspects of his very special day seem more important. However, the person you choose can set the tone for the entire wedding.

Churches, the most popular of all wedding sites, can be tricky. Some churches will not marry two people of different religions. In this age of inter-religious marriages, this can pose a problem. If you wish to be married at the church you regularly attend, speak to your pastor or minister.

If you don’t want to have your wedding in a church, consider the increasing popularity of the outdoor wedding. However, be careful; some religions will not recognize your wedding unless I is performed in a church setting. Civil and nondenominational officiants provide a wonderful alternative to the problem. Again, check with your local churches and make the site of your wedding a certainty before making definite plans with the officiant in question.

The length of the ceremony can vary from ten minutes o an hour and a half. Discuss this with your officiant before the wedding and determine how long you want your ceremony to be.

Remember, if you have friends or family members reading poems or stories as part of the proceedings, your wedding ceremony may vary in length depending on the durations of their readings. The music for your ceremony can also affect its length. Speak to your musicians or sound coordinator, and make sure they meet and speak o your officiant.

He cost of having an officiant at your wedding is small in comparison o the expense of the rest of the wedding. If your wedding is in a church, remember hat you need o pay both for the use of he church and for the time of the officiant. The money, however, is well worth it, because when you consider all he work and time your officiant spends with you, possibly even helping you write your own special vows, you can be sure that your wedding will turn out exactly how you wanted-uniquely your own.

Some churches may require engagement retreats or premarital counseling sessions.

Parties in honor of the Bride and Groom
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There are celebrations of one leaving behind he single life to join in marital bliss, usually held 1-2 weeks prior to the Big day. Generally he groom’s party is organized by the best man and the bride’s maid or matron of honor.

The most important thing to remember is to respect the wishes of the honored guest.

When planning the party, whether it’s a quiet gathering or a night out on the town, use your imagination and be creative. Restaurants and hotels are available to provide a suitable ambiance for the occasion; on the other hand, a private get-together at a friend’s home may be more intimate and cost effective. If a night on the town is more your style, comedy clubs, dancing, concerts, or a weekend in Las Vegas might be your choice of entertainment.
Your choice of transportation can help make the event even more memorable. Whether there will be drinking or not, having a limousine service will add that special touch and provide and additional measure of safety. Designated drivers are another option.

Gifts may also be appropriate for the bride or groom. These gifts are usually lingerie, a bottle of wine/liquor, or something for the honeymoon. Whatever the party, whatever the gift, be sure it is planned with the personality and style oft he guest of honor in mind.

Bridal fashion for the new millennium
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With the new millennium and changes in acceptable behavior, many brides are unsure of the proper etiquette in choosing a wedding gown. Questions have been raised on several subjects including, when is white appropriate? Can older first time brides wear a long gown? Can a younger first time bride wear colors other the white or cream? These questions, along with what fabrics and styles are best, are some of the most frequently asked questions.
Modern mores suggest that a bride, regardless of age or history, may wear whatever she so chooses. Her own personality and background are the deciding factors.

For wedding gowns, satin is by fat the most commonly used fabric. Other fabrics used include charmeause, crepe de chine, chiffon, tulle, taffeta, velvet, and peau de sole. Any of these fabrics can be made from silk, man-made fibers such as polyester or rayon, or from a combination of the two. Pure silk is the most expensive. Linen and cotton can also be used in less formal gowns.

Gown styles range from simple unadorned sheath or slip styles o the far more opulent ball gowns with full skirts, beading and laces. In the new millennium, gowns are more sophisticated, showcasing beautiful fabrics and design lines with little extraneous ornamentation.

However, for those brides wanting the more extravagant gown, many are available in very beautiful styles and details. These include intricate beading, antique laces, and colorful accents.

For other brides who desire a less traditional look, a beautiful suit or dress is a definite option. The brides may choose to accessorize their outfits with beaded shoes and handbag and a striking hat. With all he options available, there is truly a style for every bride.

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